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Think back to some of the happiest times in your life.
Chances are good that these are also the days when you felt your most confident.
Maybe you finally nailed that Zumba sequence and stayed on point the whole class. Or you aced a project at work. Maybe it was your last anniversary when you were wearing your most flattering outfit and you felt on top of the world.
Confidence can be a huge happiness booster. Look at successful people in real life and in the media. The more confident they are in their careers and lives, the happier they seem.
But why wait for something great to happen in your life?
Why not work on boosting your self-confidence, which in turn will increase your feeling of happiness?
There are all sorts of things you can do to boost your confidence.
You should first think about what in your life brings you the most satisfaction. That is never going to be the same thing for everyone. By identifying your individual areas where you feel satisfied and accomplished, you will have a better chance to boosting your self confidence and happiness.
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to boosting confidence. Even when we share the same accomplishments, we tend to respond to different strategies, techniques, and events.
Some of us thrive on words of encouragement, while others want to see results, or respond to kind actions from others.
Are you the type of person who gets more meaning from kind words from your boss, a raise, or a promotion? Or maybe public recognition at the latest company meeting.
We all have different confidence triggers and the trick is to figure out what yours is and how you can get more of those types of boosts.
General confidence boosters include words of encouragement, seeing how far we’ve come, listening to some upbeat music, going out for a run, and dealing with failure in a positive way.
Note which you respond to the most and try to get those boosts into your daily life.
You may not get verbal encouragement on a regular basis, but you can remember (write them down!) compliments and pull them out when you need them.
You may have just started an exercise program, but you can give yourself the acknowledgement that you are making progress.
If you have been in a funk since your last child moved away but you’re trying new hobbies and getting out with friends to transition to a new life, clap your hands and you go, girl! Growth is hard but you should be proud of any forward step you take.
Give confidence-boosting tips a try. You’ll find the ones that work for you.
Then sit back and notice how much confidence impacts overall happiness. Here are just a few suggestions you may want to try:
- If you respond well to compliments and words of encouragement, call a friend or anyone else in your life who makes a great cheerleader, go out for coffee or drinks and laugh, don’t complain.
- Write down and repeat positive verbal affirmations whenever you need a little boost.
- Keep a journal so you can look back and see how much progress you’ve made. This is particularly sound advice if you’re trying to change your life, your habits, or make progress on a long-term project. Being able to flip back and see how far you’ve come can be very encouraging.
- Crank up some tunes and dance around the house. A bonus now that a judgy teenager isn’t around to see you.
- Heading outside for a little fresh air and exercise.
- Walk your dog. He loves you anyway, but he’ll think (and let you know) that you’re the best thing on the earth EVER for focusing on him.
- Last, but not least, think about how you deal with failure. When things go wrong – and let’s face it, they will sooner or later – you can either allow it to bring you down and undermine your confidence, or you can look at it as a learning experience. Guess which view is better for your self-esteem?
I hope you take these suggestions to heart and make an effort to work on your confidence. Not only will it make you a happier person, you also get more done, and become more successful in the long run.