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Do you know the expression “Fake It ‘Till You Make It?”
The idea is that if you look like a success, others around you will treat you like a successful person and will send more projects and opportunities your way.
At some point, you can stop faking it because you’ve become what you’ve pretended to be.
“Faking” sounds a little harsh but, in this context, it isn’t as phony as it sounds.
What you are really doing is modeling behaviors until you’ve internalized them. Once that happens, you will start to see results, because you’ve been working hard at exactly the types of things a successful person does.
The interesting thing is that this works in all sorts of different situations. If you want to be a thin and fit person, start acting like one, eating the things they eat, working out, moving around more etc. After a few months of doing that, you’ll not only slim down, you will be thinking like a person who is thin.
How many times have you walked into a party where you knew virtually no one and pasted a big smile on your face and introduced yourself to people? You may have been a little uncomfortable with meeting so many strangers, but you faked it and by the end of the party, you may have made a few new friends.
You can probably think of several examples in your life when you did something similar.
Guess what? You can fake happiness until your mood improves. And by faking it, you’re generating positive thoughts and mood that are affecting those around you (remember yesterday’s Make Someone’s Day post?) and they, in turn, are projecting those positive thoughts and mood right back at you.
It’s like a vicious cycle. Without the “vicious.” It’s a feel good cycle!
So how to you “fake” happiness?
It’s a lot easier than you may think.
You can start with nothing more complicated than smiling. A fake smile will do in a pinch but if you can, get your entire face, including your eyes involved. Give smiling your best effort, even if you aren’t feeling it.
After a bit of smiling and having people smile back at you, you should feel your mood start to improve.
Remind yourself throughout the day to smile.
When you’re ready to kick it up a notch, give laughing a try.
If there’s nothing funny going on, watch a funny YouTube or viral comedy skit and just start giggling and laughing.
It has a profound impact on the body.
Not only will it instantly lift your bad mood and make you feel happier, laughing has also been shown to increase your body’s ability to heal and improve your immune system.
I know, I know.
It sounds artificial and fake. But I promise you won’t feel that way for long.
Your smile may have been plastered on your face when you went to that party and forced yourself to meet people. But it started to feel genuine when other guests talked to you and were friendly back. You faked it just long enough to make it.
So exercising that skill is well worth your time.
Start practicing “faking” happiness.
Smile and laugh at yourself in front of the bathroom mirror in the mornings.
Then make an effort to smile more and laugh often as you go about your day.
Not only will you notice your own happiness levels increase, you’ll also make a difference in those around you.