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Happiness Is A Choice You Make Every Day!
Don’t believe me? Let me explain.
Are you a glass half full or half empty person?
This well-known example illustrates that there are often two sides to any story and that you have a choice in how you view things.
And that choice in turn determines how happy you feel. Happiness then becomes a choice you make every single day.
This is a photograph of my favorite aunt.
Marie was born in Algeria when it was a French colony, and now lives in France. She is a woman who has experienced horrors and losses in her life, including living through a violent revolution, the loss of a daughter to cystic fibrosis and later, the premature death of her husband.
Yet today she is one of the happiest people I know.
She could have chosen to dwell in the safety of her grief and never tried for happiness again, but instead she chose happiness.
She travels frequently and has visited Egypt, China, Eastern Europe, Italy, and nearly every place you could name.
She enjoys visits by her children and grandchildren but she has learned that happiness is not defined by their presence but by her daily choice to find joy in big and small moments.
You can choose to see the glass as half empty, focusing on the fact that you’re nearly done drinking that nice glass of lemonade. When you think that way, you’ll likely feel a little depressed about it being almost gone. If, on the other hand, you focus on the fact that the glass is still half full and you still have plenty of delicious lemonade to enjoy, your mood is very different and you are experiencing satisfaction and happiness in that moment.
ok, so a glass of lemonade, no matter how delicious, is not the same as the big things we deal with in our daily lives.
So what is it that makes a woman, like my aunt, experience tragic losses and terrible times in her life, and emerge a twinkly-eyed person with a wicked sense of humor and joy in each day?
Happiness is a choice. Things happen – sad things, bad things. It’s normal to acknowledge our losses and grieve for them. But at some point, you alone can make the decision that you want to be happy again. When you are ready, you can find happiness again because you will define what that means to you.
Over the next 30 days, I will be hosting a challenge. If you choose to take the challenge, I will post privately here with tips, advice, and strategies to help you make a conscious decision to be happier.
Ready to join me?
To make sure you don’t miss a post and receive a little inspiration and motivation from me via email, sign up for the 30 Day Happiness Challenge here:
I look forward to seeing and hearing from you on the other side.
Here is why I decided to create this 30 Day Happiness Challenge.
Like you, I saw off my children to their new lives as students and adults. I shed some tears on the way home and walked around empty rooms feeling lost and as if I had a big hole in my heart.
And like many of you, I’ve had my share of heartbreaks and losses through the years. But I am basically a half-full kind of person. I chose to enjoy what I have and not focus exclusively on what I don’t. I choose happy.
Since happiness is a choice we make every single day, I want to challenge you to make it a habit. Over the coming days, I want to inspire and encourage you to make a choice every morning to be happier.
It takes time and daily, conscious decisions to change habits and how we approach life. That’s where the challenge comes into play.
You have a daily reminder via email each day to help you remember to make that choice. Of course there will also be plenty of helpful content on the topic of happiness in the form of a new daily blog post, exclusive to you because you chose happiness.
At the end of the challenge, I hope that you will have formed new habits, new ways of thinking, and new ways to look at each situation as it arises. With a little shift in thinking and perception, you can craft a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself.
I hope this challenge will help you get there.
So sign up and look for my first email welcoming you to the challenge and giving you more details of what’s to come!
You’ll also get a downloadable Happiness Journal to help you document the changes you are making and your thoughts about the exercises. Look for that in your confirmation email!