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Life isn’t all happiness and sunshine.
And that’s a good thing.
I know it may sound contrary, but how boring would it be to only have positive experiences?
We need the negative, the sadness, and the disappointments to balance the happiness.
They are what make the happy times stand out and shine all the brighter.
That being said, negative thoughts, emotions, and the events and people that cause them are part of life.
We have to learn to deal with them and make the best of sad situations to live a happy and content life.
Today I want to look at a few different ideas and strategies that can help us do just that.
Put Them In Perspective
Before you allow yourself to wallow in sadness, try your best to step back and look at the situation from a different perspective.
Get some sleep, go out for a walk, and come back and look at it again.
Try your best to see the positive side of things. Yes, there are undeniably sad and bad situations in our lives, but even so, most of them have a little flicker of something good in them as well. Find that positivity and hang on to it.
Did you just drop your child off at his college dorm? Of course, you’re going to be grieving! But the positive thing that you can hang on to is that you did your job!
You raised up a human being who is ready to live an independent life.
Because of you.
There are also a lot of times and situations where we focus too much on the negativity. A little distance, and a little perspective can show us that it’s not as bad as we originally thought.
Allow Yourself To Be Sad At Times
There are times when life just plain sucks.
It’s ok to be sad.
Don’t feel that you have to be happy 100% of the time.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to take the time to be sad and to grieve.
There is a lot of healing, and coming to terms with things, that can only happen when you let yourself go through the grief process.
Feel it, so you can start to heal, recover and get back to the happier version of yourself.
Look On The Bright Side And Find Your Way Back To Happiness
To make sure that happens and you don’t spiral down into a hole of sadness, despair and depression, you have to look for the right side, or the little flicker of light at the end of the tunnel.
Look for it, focus on it, and use it to find your way back to happiness.
Maybe that little flicker of hope is simply that you’re not feeling quite as sad as you did yesterday.
Or maybe it’s a call from a friend, or a neighbor dropping off a card.
Grab on to it and use anything good and positive in your life to lead you back.
I’m going to share something that I rarely talk about.
When we lost our daughter, I remember sitting with my family afterwards. We talked about her and shared memories.
Then someone made a joke. I can’t remember what the joke was.
But I laughed.
Only for a couple of seconds, but …
And I knew in that moment that I would be happy again someday.
Find that moment, that spark, in yourself.