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We all go through hard times.
There are periods in our lives where it is hard to find much joy and happiness amid a sea of sadness and overwhelm.
There are going to be sad times in our lives. Relationships end and we lose loved ones. There is certainly a time to grieve and we need to process that loss.
When you are dealing with serious illness and death, the grief and overwhelm can be crippling and very hard to work through. It requires time, support and being able to feel happiness again can sometimes take years.
I have experienced serious losses and the sadness of life transitions as my children left home one by one.
Someone reminded me recently that without sadness, we could not recognize happiness. There is a balance and we need to restore the equilibrium when stress and overwhelm take up too much space in our hearts.
I am in no way minimizing the grief one feels as finding themselves an empty nester, but the sadness and overwhelm we feel at our children leaving is based in a normal transition for them and for us. The loss is in our definition, not in losing our children for good.
That being said, there are things you can do to help swing the pendulum towards happiness during these tough times.
Often, making the decision to not allow overwhelm to take over your life is all it takes to help you make it through that period in your life.
You can’t expect to flip a switch and suddenly have everything be ok. But you do need to see a little light at the end of the tunnel. You need even a hint of happiness to give you hope that the future will bring more.
So how do you go about creating moments of happiness to get you through the hard times?
The first thing you may want to focus on is gratitude.
We touched on the concept of gratitude earlier in the challenge. Whenever you feel particularly bad, sad, or overwhelmed and don’t know where to turn, think about the many people and things in your life that you can be grateful for.
Be grateful for the time you’ve had raising your wonderful children and that you had the strength to help launch them into the world when the time came. Remember the fun you’ve had together and what you have to look forward to in the future – the weddings, the grandchildren, the visits you will plan.
If you’re stressed out at work or in your own business, be grateful that you’re learning, growing and making progress.
It may not be easy, but this overwhelm and stress usually means that much better things are ahead.
Create a mindset that every set-back is an opportunity to learn how to be better and to reach for bigger rewards.
Remember each of the lessons you’ve already learned in the challenge.
Find the joy in little things.
Make the decision to face the day with optimism and hope.
Do something, anything, every day that you can be proud of.
Take time for yourself, not to grieve but to care and appreciate yourself.
Be grateful for the people in your life, especially if they are going through the grief and overwhelm with you.
In other words, look around and find a little joy and happiness where you can.
Above all, remember that even during hard times, it’s ok to find and appreciate these little moments of happiness.